I want to talk about the impact of the feeling of grief because it has shaped people’s lives in ways that either build them or break them. Everyone has experienced grief in some form — whether through the loss of a loved one, a parent, a partner, a child, a pet, a job, money, or other material possesions. All these losses can create grief, an intense sadness and frustration that often begins as a natural emotional reaction. Especially when the loss happens unexpectedly or in a way we can’t control.
But I’ve noticed that many Christians allow grief — or the spirit behind it — to grow so deeply within them that it leads them down paths of depression, confusion, bitterness and even mystical practices that are completely outside of God’s will. Practices people turn to in the name of “closure,” but that actually open spiritual doors God never wanted opened.
I want to share a personal story.
When I was young, living with my mom in Cameroon, we were in a very modest home. I was around five or six years old. My cousin used to steal money from my mother’s bag. My mom was prayerful; she loved God, but she was extremely frustrated that her money kept going missing.
That frustration — that grief over losing something she worked hard for — was natural. But the route she took to get answers was not from God.
She went to see a witch doctor. In many African cultures, this is common — fortune tellers, psychics, mediums. The witch doctor told her it was my cousin who stole the money. She confronted him; he denied it. But she believed the words of that person. This caused her to be so angry and upset, and very reliant on what the witch doctor had said.
In the West, contact with mediums is also very common. I remember a popular show on E! where a psychic would go into celebrities’ homes and claim to speak to their dead relatives. I used to watch it and think, “This is so fascinating,” yet something always felt wrong in my spirit. How can you speak to the dead? Why would people open themselves to that?
So many people use mystical practices to deal with grief — tarot, mediums, witchcraft, fortune telling — thinking it brings closure, when it actually drags them deeper into darkness.
You must understand: the spiritual world is real.
There is a kingdom of darkness, run by Satan, his agents, witches, warlocks, psychics, and demonic spirits. And there is the kingdom of light — ruled by God, who speaks through His Holy Spirit.
The world has normalised darkness.
They call witchcraft “spirituality.”
They call psychics “intuition guides.”
They call divination “healing.”
But darkness is still darkness, no matter how pretty the packaging looks.
If grief pushed you into witchcraft, divination, psychics, tarot, mediums — consciously or unconsciously — you must break those alignments. These things do not comfort you; they curse you. They see your past, pretend to predict your future, but speak death into your destiny.
Detach from them through prayer.
Renounce them.
Tell God you’re choosing His light, not darkness. Check out more details through this sermon
So how have I been to handle grief God’s way?
Accepting His Will
So why do you need to accept God’s will?Because you didn’t create yourself.
You didn’t bring yourself into this world. Even though we all know how babies are made, your existence was ordained by God long before your body ever formed. He knew you in the spirit before you ever took a breath.
And because He is your Creator, you must remember something humbling but freeing: you are not in control. You may feel like you are — making plans, predicting outcomes, holding on tightly — but life will always remind you that at the end of the day, God is the One who decides the beginning and the end.
Accepting God’s will is not about pretending you aren’t hurting.
It’s not about being “strong” or emotionless.
It’s about releasing the illusion that you could have changed the outcome.
Because deep down, many people carry grief with guilt —
“If only I had done something…”
“I should have said something…”
“I could have saved them…”
No.
There are decisions, moments, and endings that belong only to God — His divine judgment, His divine mercy, His divine timing.
Acceptance is not giving up.
Acceptance is detaching yourself from shame, guilt, fear, and the fantasy that you could have rewritten a story that God Himself authored.
And here’s the part that requires real faith:
If you are still alive — even after the loss — it means God still has a plan for you.
It means the story isn’t over.
It means your purpose is still active.
It means heaven still expects something from you.
When people say, “I don’t want to live anymore because I lost this person or this thing,” it reveals something painful but true:
they placed their identity, their stability, or their hope in something fragile… something that could be taken away.
But when your identity is anchored in God —
even when you experience loss —
you will rise again, because you understand:
My life is not held together by people, possessions, or circumstances.
My life is held together by God.
Ask God to Rebuild You
Asking God to rebuild your life after a loss is very hard.
A lot of the time, we want to stay in pain because a part of us believes the brokenness is “normal.”
It’s tied to old toxic beliefs — the idea that maybe we deserve to suffer, or that our life is supposed to feel unfair.
So when something or someone is taken away from us, it feels almost impossible to go to God and say:
“Help me move forward.
Support me through this.
Heal me.”
Letting go is difficult because we often idolize the thing or the person we lost.
We hold on so tightly that they become part of our identity.
But the truth is: the only thing eternally connected to you is God — not your kids, not your spouse, not your job, not your money, not your titles, not your achievements.
So after you’ve allowed yourself to grieve, talked to someone you trust, or even sought medical help if needed, you now have to rebuild.
Ask God to rebuild your life and give it sense and purpose again.
For me, after a deep breakup in early 2025, I was struggling to find direction. I felt empty and confused. One of the things I started doing was volunteering at a homeless shelter. I also began teaching French to kids. That was my way of putting the good inside me out into the world again, without expecting anything back.
Little by little, that helped me move forward.
I prayed.
I volunteered.
I did small things that brought me joy.
And over time, I saw that you can be rebuilt after a loss — even after something you thought was part of your identity.
Leaning on God is a process, but He truly guides your steps.
A lot of people think prayer is just talking to God and that’s it.
But when you pray, God moves.
He starts placing ideas in your mind, nudging you in certain directions, opening small doors — and even if you don’t recognize it at first, it’s still Him answering.
Turning to God is the most effective way to move on.
He doesn’t just comfort you through the pain —
He rebuilds you.
Just Remember...
Accept God’s will is not easy. We want answers. We want explanations. We want God to justify Himself. But acceptance brings peace.
If the grief came through injustice, violence, or wrongdoing, you can still seek legal justice — but first seek emotional healing through God. You may seek medical help like seeing a therapist , church ; leader or trusted person to openly cry about it.
Turn to Him before turning to people, psychics, witchcraft, or mystical rituals.
It is normal to want to know “why.”
But the method you use must stay aligned with God.
God is with you. He loves you. He wants to comfort and elevate you.
Jesus Christ Himself experienced the deepest grief — betrayal, abandonment, physical pain, death. There is nothing you’re feeling that He hasn’t felt. So , run to Him. Cry if you need to. Talk to Him honestly. he said in his word “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Mathew 11:28
Healing is not a sign of forgetting — it’s a sign of surrendering.
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