Transforming Your Inner Life

During sanctification, God is far more focused on transforming your character than fulfilling your requests.

A month ago, I planned an event and expected the same favor God has always given me. Yet, I hit an intense internal roadblock—disbelief, fear, and hesitation that completely stopped me from stepping out in faith. The project failed. At first, it felt painful and confusing. But the Holy Spirit showed me the truth: God could have given me favor, but my disbelief, pride, and selfish ambition blocked the flow. That moment became a lesson rather than a loss.

Since then, God has been helping me rewire my mindset. I’ve learned to speak against thoughts that do not align with truth, just as Scripture teaches. When God places opportunities before me—especially in my business—I no longer talk myself out of them. Instead, I praise. I thank God in advance. I speak faith.

Recently, I attended a funeral and lost an aunt. It was deeply painful. Yet, in that grief, the Holy Spirit comforted me. I had to make a conscious decision to step into praise until joy returned to my spirit. I had to fight sadness—not by denial, but by faith—because I trust that God’s will is sovereign and good.

This season has taught me something powerful:
I am stronger than I thought.

Not out of pride—but because God has already given us dominion. He has given us authority to speak against discouragement, depression, fear, and heaviness. He has given us the power to choose peace over chaos, gentleness over reaction, silence over retaliation. He has given us the discernment to stop judging and allow Him to reveal truth in His timing.

But let’s be honest—this is hard.

Yes, we are saved. Yes, we have eternal life in Jesus Christ. But there are habits, behaviors, and emotional patterns we have accepted for years that must now be undone. And God is not punishing us through this process. He is not abandoning us. He is loving us like a good Father.

One of the clearest ways God exposes spiritual maturity is through:

• how you love yourself in your mind,

• how you treat your family,

• how you handle coworkers, clients, leaders, friends, enemies,

• how you respond to grief, rejection, disappointment, and delay.

Are you doing things to look spiritual, or to honor God?

One area God convicted me deeply in was my fear of preaching or witnessing to people who openly reject Jesus. I took their rejection personally. I didn’t want to be misunderstood, mocked, or rejected—so I avoided those spaces. God showed me that this was pride. Wanting to protect my image rather than obey His voice.

I’ve learned that when God sends me somewhere, He goes with me. It is not by my strength or eloquence—He works through me. My role is obedience, not performance.

Even when I hesitate at first (and I’m working on that), I always obey—because His presence is too strong to ignore, and because I love Him. Not out of fear, but out of trust. I know whatever He allows is for my good.

One moment that deeply touched me was Jesus’ prayer in John 17. As He stood on the brink of betrayal, humiliation, and death, Jesus declared that He knew the Father loved Him—and He asked the Father to love us in the same way.

That shook me.

Jesus was about to suffer deeply, yet He was anchored in the certainty of God’s love. I prayed for that same knowing—not just belief, but deep assurance—that no matter what I face, the Father loves me. That in the end, God will be glorified, and I will be glorified through Christ, just as Jesus was glorified through resurrection.

God has also been killing irritation and anxiety in me—two traits that blocked the fruits of gentleness, patience, and peace. I’ve learned that I can only walk in these fruits when I lean fully on God before I act, speak, or decide. When I lean on Him, my life becomes about glorifying Christ, not protecting myself.

This is true beauty.

God knows how to bless you.
God knows how to defend you.
God knows how to restore you.
Because He created you—and He knows what He placed inside you.

Sometimes God allows character transformation so that we finally see the goodness He already put in us. We often don’t see ourselves the way God sees us, so we act out of pain because pain feels familiar. But once sanctification breaks certain cycles, we discover new parts of ourselves—and we fall deeper in love with God because we realize: He is good. He is faithful. He finishes what He starts.

But sanctification also requires desire. You must want to be transformed. When I told God I would follow Him no matter what, I experienced a strength that surpassed understanding. I decided I would no longer allow discouragement, offense, grief, or frustration to separate me from God’s love.

I once walked away—and my life became chaotic. Now that I’ve returned, I will do everything in my power to remain with Him. Not because He leaves us—but because we leave Him when we fix our eyes on trauma, lies, opinions, and fear instead of faith.

Without faith, we cannot please God.
Without faith, we cannot access what already belongs to us.

What keeps us from stepping into God’s promises is disbelief. The enemy uses discouragement to keep us from entering each season God has prepared. That’s why we must constantly fight discouragement—by holding onto what God personally told us, by standing on His Word, by worshiping when strength is low, and by allowing the Spirit to renew us daily. I’ve also believed that if I submit myself to God and resist the attacks of the enemy, he will flee. When I grow closer to God, God will come near me. (James 4:7)

Jesus has already accomplished everything on the cross.
My role is simple:

• Believe.

• Obey.

• Worship.

• Stay in the Word.

• Speak life.

• Serve others.

Because faith grows in relationships—with God and with people. Most of Jesus’ teachings were relational: forgiveness, humility, prayer, service, love. When you apply Matthew 5, 6, and 7, you begin to grow into oneness with God and maturity in Christ.

I invite you to meditate on these chapters. Ask God to help you live them—not perfectly, but faithfully.

Stay blessed.
Know that God loves you.
Jesus died so you could be healed, transformed, and become the best version of who you were created to be.

He is not finished with you yet.