Be grateful at all times.
I know reading this may feel foreign. You might be saying, “Pam, what are you talking about? I just lost my job. I just got heartbroken. I just lost something or someone. You don’t know the pain I’ve been through.”
And trust me—I’ve been there. I’ve been heartbroken, misguided by my own desires, and stuck at crossroads asking God, “Why would You lead me here just to leave me?”
I stayed in my pain.
And when I stayed in my pain, trauma started driving instead of Jesus. My emotions guided me instead of the Holy Spirit. My wounds spoke louder than God the Father who was trying to love me through it.
So when I ask you to be grateful, it’s not because I don’t understand pain.
It’s because I know that when you serve God, He will wipe your tears.
He turns things that seem horrible into blessings.
And your rainbow—your breakthrough—might be right around the corner.
There is always light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how long the tunnel feels.
I remember God telling me:
“It’s not the end until I say it’s over.”
That is His nature. He does not abandon you at your lowest point. He finds ways to pull you out, to elevate you, to strengthen you
My Story of 2025
In early 2025, I was heartbroken. I didn’t know who I was anymore.
I was anxious, emotionally dependent, attached to someone God clearly told me not to be attached to.
I couldn’t sleep.
I would wake up sweating.
The anxiety was spiritual.
And when God finally told me to cut the ties—and I obeyed—I truly didn’t know who I was without that attachment. I wasn’t suicidal by God’s grace, but I was deeply anxious, sad, and disconnected from myself.
I tried distracting myself. I entertained anger at men, bitterness about marriage, convincing myself I would never date again. You know that routine trauma pushes you into.
But something inside me questioned:
“Is this really what you want? Or is trauma leading?”
What shifted everything for me that year was one simple habit:
I chose gratitude.
I started writing gratitude lists.
Not perfectly, not consistently at first, but enough to shift my perspective.
I told myself:
“Before you ask God for something new, be grateful for what He has already done.”
Because even though that relationship was toxic, God gave me the courage to leave.
Even though I had anxiety for months, God kept whispering:
“You’re going to be fine.”
And He was right.
The “New Thing” God Gave Me Was… Me
Sometimes when we say, “God is doing a new thing,” we instantly think of a new job, a new relationship, a new opportunity.
But God gave me something far more valuable:
He gave me myself back.
He healed me.
He delivered me.
He broke chains I had carried for 26 years.
He restored my identity.
I know this because I had dreams where I was naked—spiritually exposed. Nakedness in dreams means lack of identity, lack of covering. But as I let Jesus fill the spaces where a man used to fill my wounds, God started rebuilding me.
I sat with my trauma.
I forgave.
I processed.
I let Jesus take care of my wounded heart.
And looking back, I am so grateful that He restored me before giving me anything else.
Because everything else—marriage, jobs, cars—are worldly things.
Anyone in the world can get those.
But not everyone has identity.
Not everyone has peace.
Not everyone has wholeness.
That is the real blessing.
Ending 2025 Differently
Today, December 2025, I am in a better mindset than I was in January.
I am hopeful.
I am excited about life.
I am more cautious about the patterns that used to lead me astray.
And most importantly:
I have Jesus in a deeper way than ever before.
I always knew Him, but now I walk with Him.
The Holy Spirit strengthens me daily—not just physically, but morally and emotionally.
He is building me on the inside.
God’s “new thing” wasn’t a job, a man, or a car.
It was a new me.
Gratitude Keeps Your Eyes on God
Sometimes the enemy distracts us by making us focus only on obstacles.
But gratitude shifts your vision back to God.
Remember:
You are standing today in an answered prayer you prayed 6 or 7 years ago.
You wanted to move countries—you did.
You wanted healing—God began it.
You wanted purpose—you’re stepping into it.
So be grateful.
God loves when you remember what He has done, because it opens the door for what He is about to do next.
If you’re still waiting, it means God is still working.
Be still.
Be joyful.
Let your heart rest.
God is good—even when it doesn’t feel like it.
He has plans to elevate you, to prosper you, to restore you.
You just need to be patient and grateful.
Because as Christians, we don’t thank Him only for what we see—we thank Him for what is coming.
And believe me: something new is coming.
Let Jesus be the King of your heart.
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